by David Blair Corbett (Notes) on Saturday, 10 September 2011 at 12:49 (on Facebook)
In my view, I need clear moral standards built in love… That is what I see successful parents doing, even today where moral greyness seems to reign… These parents unashamedly nurture and guide with consistent standards (that are moral), this brings peace and security.
Living by “the Law” (legalistic religiousness) can be very destructive, it seems, yet, living without standards or via some form of moral relativism has been taking cultures to destruction for millenia… So what’s a body to do??!!
Without loving, clear standards, we grow up to become anxious seekers of instant gratification who never know how to grow up to emotional maturity – that sounds like half the adult culture in North America, to me!. Without these clear, loving moral standards, we don’t know the difference between love and lust… Youth often rebel and refuse moral standards because they are reacting to the way some parents "deliver" these standards (in fear & anger, maybe?) or because the “rights & wrongs” aren’t adhered to by the “messenger”. Being a “Free-spirit” is too often a euphemism/rationalization for being a clost or even bold rebel, in my finding… Many teens can’t find their way through the morass of moral “greyness” our culture has been handing out for decades…
Loving nurture always includes boundaries and clear messages of where you begin, and I end, so to speak… Doing hard things (as far as right and wrong) is what grows us up! We really need to have those in our lives who will help guide and care for us as we learn to do those difficult things… This essential is sadly lacking out there today!
Some feel we know what is morally correct from nurture alone… This discounts one’s spirit… We know authentic Love when we sense Love, some say that’s intuitive… I say it is Spirit. And soul alone cannot learn to be loving, it is experienced in one’s alive and functioning spirit, which has learned and been aided to live at the forefront of each of us – taking preeminence. Personally, I think we do not teach this well, or even at ALL, in North America.
Morals have been expunged from too much of public education over the past 40 years or so, only to create a vacuum that darkness has slowly filled to the point where some public schools are more like hi-security airport clearance areas at the entrance ways! Now many public education leaders and legislators are scrambling to bring in character/moral development curricula!!! Go figure!?
When I was in university, one of my advisers was the founder of values clarification training for educators. His family-life was an admitted total ruin and this person (a secular Jew) was quite willing to share how a loved one of his required a very stringent moral rehabilitation in a 6-month intensive Judeo-Christian program to “straighten them out”! For those uninitiated in this ideology, let me just say: look it up online… If you want to discern the true worth of an ideologue, look to how they raise their kids and then see what Truth there is in the philosophy they espouse!
We are so strange… We want to see an orderly society where people are kind and respectful and yet… “Oh, let them go to university and “find” themselves…” Hubris! Too many kids looking for themselves, in university, end up depressed and at the counseling center!!! I’d like to say they find what they were looking for there, but I’d be lying to you… Disenchanted, and lacking true moral guidance and support to do the hard work of growing up emotionally, a large percentage of them drop out…
In my view, I need clear moral standards built in love… That is what I see successful parents doing, even today where moral greyness seems to reign… These parents unashamedly nurture and guide with consistent standards (that are moral), this brings peace and security.
Living by “the Law” (legalistic religiousness) can be very destructive, it seems, yet, living without standards or via some form of moral relativism has been taking cultures to destruction for millenia… So what’s a body to do??!!
Without loving, clear standards, we grow up to become anxious seekers of instant gratification who never know how to grow up to emotional maturity – that sounds like half the adult culture in North America, to me!. Without these clear, loving moral standards, we don’t know the difference between love and lust… Youth often rebel and refuse moral standards because they are reacting to the way some parents "deliver" these standards (in fear & anger, maybe?) or because the “rights & wrongs” aren’t adhered to by the “messenger”. Being a “Free-spirit” is too often a euphemism/rationalization for being a clost or even bold rebel, in my finding… Many teens can’t find their way through the morass of moral “greyness” our culture has been handing out for decades…
Loving nurture always includes boundaries and clear messages of where you begin, and I end, so to speak… Doing hard things (as far as right and wrong) is what grows us up! We really need to have those in our lives who will help guide and care for us as we learn to do those difficult things… This essential is sadly lacking out there today!
Some feel we know what is morally correct from nurture alone… This discounts one’s spirit… We know authentic Love when we sense Love, some say that’s intuitive… I say it is Spirit. And soul alone cannot learn to be loving, it is experienced in one’s alive and functioning spirit, which has learned and been aided to live at the forefront of each of us – taking preeminence. Personally, I think we do not teach this well, or even at ALL, in North America.
Morals have been expunged from too much of public education over the past 40 years or so, only to create a vacuum that darkness has slowly filled to the point where some public schools are more like hi-security airport clearance areas at the entrance ways! Now many public education leaders and legislators are scrambling to bring in character/moral development curricula!!! Go figure!?
When I was in university, one of my advisers was the founder of values clarification training for educators. His family-life was an admitted total ruin and this person (a secular Jew) was quite willing to share how a loved one of his required a very stringent moral rehabilitation in a 6-month intensive Judeo-Christian program to “straighten them out”! For those uninitiated in this ideology, let me just say: look it up online… If you want to discern the true worth of an ideologue, look to how they raise their kids and then see what Truth there is in the philosophy they espouse!
We are so strange… We want to see an orderly society where people are kind and respectful and yet… “Oh, let them go to university and “find” themselves…” Hubris! Too many kids looking for themselves, in university, end up depressed and at the counseling center!!! I’d like to say they find what they were looking for there, but I’d be lying to you… Disenchanted, and lacking true moral guidance and support to do the hard work of growing up emotionally, a large percentage of them drop out…
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